I have seen Inquiry defined this way in, of all places, the Harvard Business Review: “… listening with the intention of genuinely understanding the thoughts and feelings of the speaker”. [emphasis mine] This is what we see in Charlotte Vaughan Coyle’s dialogue with her friend.
The form of Inquiry I (try to ;-)) practice has a specific structure, but without the intention described above the structure is useless.
I sometimes say that Inquiry is like a safari trip through your partner’s mind. Most of us live in “Drive”—we push ahead, eager to get to our goal or destination. With Inquiry, as on safari, the whole point of being there is to travel more slowly and look, not just at the road ahead, but all around to explore the wonderful things to see.
HBR Reference: Ancona, Malone, Orlikowski, & Senge. “In Praise of the Incomplete Leader”. Harvard Business Review, February 2007